Asking “Why is this happening?” can only disempower you. Asking “What do I want to make of this?” does exactly the opposite. — Neale Donald Walsch
“Why” is the easy question to ask, and the one we often default to. Why did this happen? Why is it happening to me? Why does my Creator allow this to happen? All the “whys” imply helplessness, confusion, perhaps frustration and anger. And you’re left just as you began—miserable, feeling victimized, and answerless.
“What do I do with this?” accomplishes exactly the opposite. It implies that we do have power. It means that you plan to participate in the solution, that you desire to hop back into the driver’s seat and do what you can to make the best of the situation.
It may require action; or it may require pondering and meditating and sitting with the question for a while. But it does mean that you’ve chosen to be engaged and involved, not a victim, and that’s half the battle right there.