“How in the world can you give enough, if you’re coming from a place of ‘not enough’?”
Would you consider yourself a “giver?” If so, here’s the question to ask: Are my coffers full enough that there’s extra to share? Or, is there enough water in the well, or am I running dry? I think you get the idea.
In order to be of use to others, you must be filled up “enough” yourself, first and foremost. What is it you need? A break? A good friend? A workout? A walk with the dogs? A bubble bath?
In my books I refer to this as “healthy selfishness”, but really it’s just good self-care. And it’s important. Without it, you burn out. Then who are you good for? Denying yourself good care does not allow you to bring the best of you—only what’s left of you.